black friday deals


Black-Friday-Sales 1. Sweet Escape Dress via Shopbop 2. Embroidered Star Pumps via Anthropologie 3. Maison Off the Shoulder Dress via Shopbop 4. Ariana Flats via Shopbop 5. Downalicious Deluxe Vest via Athleta (I wear mine almost every day during winter, and it washes so easily on delicate cycle) 6. Lip Sheer in Raisin via Beautycounter 7. Turtleneck Maxi Dress via Shopbop 8. Be Free Knicker via Athleta (the best running/bootcamp pants there are; they don’t slide down or roll over when on runs or dynamic exercises) 9. Space Dye Namaste Bra via Athleta (very comfortable to wear all day if you never get a chance to change after a workout) 10. Chelsea Rain Boot via Shopbop 11. Shampoo & Conditioner via Beautycounter, FREE with $150 purchase 12. Tint Skin Foundation via Beautycounter 13. Day to Night Lipgloss Collection via Beautycounter

After working too many years in retail, I made a vow to never again shop in-store during Black Friday weekend. Instead, I’ve gotten a start on Christmas shopping from the comfort of my own home. Best selection is usually nabbed on Friday, but most sales last all weekend long, and then online retailers usually add more inventory for Cyber Monday.

I’ve rounded up some of my personal favorites for today’s post, from my favorite online shops.

Beautycounter: Free shipping on Black Friday, and free shampoo & conditioner with any $150 purchase, no code needed now thru November 30th

Shopbop: 15%-25% off using code GOBIG15 at checkout, now thru November 30th.

Anthropologie: 25% off site wide using code SHOPTOIT at checkout, now thru November 30th

Athleta: 20% off site wide using code WORKIT at checkout, now thru November 29th

Tea Collection: $12, $15, $17 sale no code needed now thru November 28th

MuTu System: 40% off site wide on all systems no code needed now thru November 30th


Developing a Healthier Relationship With Coffee


IMG_7336 Last year, after dealing with some persistent and nagging health issues, I elected to do a 21 day cleanse. For three weeks I eliminated a laundry list of items from my (almost) daily routine; from gluten and dairy, to alcohol and caffeine, I was able to feel a lot better than I had felt in some time. Soon after, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, and I was set on a new path to treating and taking care of myself, which included remaining (mostly) gluten free, getting more rest and reducing stress where and when possible, and taking a handful of pills and supplements. Quite a few of you participated in the 21 day cleanse alongside me, and many more of you didn’t. Without a doubt, one item on the elimination list prevented more people from joining the challenge, and caused more grief and longing to those who did participate, than any other, and that was ditching their daily dose of coffee. Between screams of abject horror at the thought of even considering eliminating coffee from their daily routine, to the horrible tension headaches those of us on the cleanse experienced in that first week, as the ring leader of this crazy experiment, it boggled my mind how dependent so many of us were on the rich substance. IMG_7306

I’ll admit that for several months after the cleanse, I maintained a caffeine-free existence, drinking primarily Swiss water method decaffeinated coffee, a process that strips the beans of 99% of their caffeine, and even steering clear of iced tea. But over the last few months, I’ve come to have a pretty regular and yet stable relationship with caffeinated beverages. From coffee to tea, I can drink caffeine with semi-regularity, yet I have never gone back to that feeling of dependency in order to function. I can go a day or two with zero caffeine at all, and suffer no withdrawal headaches, and I no longer require it to “wake up” each morning. Since I get a lot of questions about how I made the switch from CoffeeMate spiked coffee co-dependence, to my healthier current state, I thought I’d offer a few tips that have helped me out along the way. And keep in mind that when I use the word “health” I’m also referring to environmental health, since environmental impact is something to consider when looking at how enthusiastically we consume our coffee. Plus, did you read the latest study that linked daily coffee consumption to longevity, with some quantity qualifications of course. Another reason to continue to say yes to the beans, from a reasonable point of view.

1. Don’t use caffeine and coffee as a substitute for proper sleep. This should go without saying, but yet it’s worth repeating because so many of my fellow women, especially mothers, make room for a whole host of plans and agendas, all while functioning at minimally optimal sleep levels. For years I consistently went with 5-6 hours of sleep a night, but since my diagnosis I’ve made it a priority to get proper sleep, and what do you know, I realized that I needed an IV drip of coffee a lot less! Don’t rely on the bean for your energy, rather make sleep and regular exercise a priority, and you can start to enjoy coffee as more than a means to an end.

2. Allow your body to wake up naturally, and stop drinking coffee first thing in the morning. This easy read from Time explains the science behind it, but basically, by drinking coffee early in the morning, you are interfering with your body’s normal cortisol production, and are also dulling the boosting effects of caffeine.  Science says optimal caffeine consumption occurs between 10 a.m. and noon, and 2 p.m. and 5 p.m.

3. Watch your intake. Coffee is good, but too much coffee can interfere with sleep and create anxiety. Studies show that between 200-400 mg per day can help with cognitive function with no shakes. Although since we all metabolize caffeine differently, it’s worth experimenting a bit on your own to determine just how much, is too much of a good thing. IMG_7340

4. Flavor it with a myriad of other healthier alternatives. There is coffee drinking beyond lacing it with artificial non-dairy creamers and heaping teaspoons of sugar. When friends and readers ask how I was able to ditch CoffeeMate, I told them that I simply started drinking good coffee. Coffee that’s in fact so good, you’d happily drink it black. But for those of us who still enjoy a bit of creamy richness with our cup, consider the myriad of other more health-conscious options. Coconut milk, bullet coffee creamer, almond milk creamer like this one by Califia Farms (which I hear is delicious and I’m trying to get my hand on), and good ol’ half & half with a dash of maple syrup.

5. Don’t shun the decaf! If you’ve either successfully weaned yourself off the IV caffeine drip, and just miss the taste and ritual of drinking coffee, or you’re simply trying to cut back, definitely consider decaf! Look for companies who make their coffee with the natural water method versus using chemical solvents. This French Roast organic decaf by San Francisco Bay is an excellent option.

6. Consider switching up your brewing method (some assert that cold brew is best), or switching to a low-acid coffee, if you experience low-grade acid reflux from coffee.

IMG_7319 7. Use environmentally friendly OneCups for your Keurig. I actually discovered San Francisco Bay coffee thanks to my  husband. As I’ve written, we ditched our Keurig at home last year and have since been brewing with a Chemex. But our office still held onto a Keurig for its convenience and ease of use, especially amidst an office full of guys too busy to brew multiple pots of fresh coffee each day. Unbeknownst to me, my husband searched for biodegradable, environmentally friendly pods, and happily discovered San Francisco Bay because of its stellar reviews. All of San Francisco Bays OneCup coffee varieties are packaged in this environmentally friendly way, and I say with utmost honesty, taste better than any other k-cup I’ve ever tried.

8. Seek companies which use sustainable and ethical practices to grow their beans. Shade farming for example (as opposed to clear cutting for full sun) creates healthy soil content, protects the environment for a myriad of animals and birds, fights global warming, and truly creates a better coffee bean. All of San Francisco Bay’s coffee is grown using this method. You may not always be able to pick and choose the sourcing practices of your local restaurants or even coffee shops, but you can be selective about what you bring home, which is why it’s always worth taking a look at the company practices of the beans you bring home.

I hope these few tips give you something to consider if you’re trying to break the addictive caffeine cycle, and reestablish a healthier relationship based off enjoyment rather than dependence. I love my morning cup of coffee now, and love even more that I can easily move between decaf and caffeinated, coffee one day or herbal tea the next. Even more so, I love seeking out different blends and flavors now, for the sheer enjoyment of the cup, rather than just to get a fix. Let me know if you’ve got questions, and hopefully I’ll have answers.

**This post was sponsored by San Francisco Bay Coffee, but all opinions are my own. I love working with brands that have values that align with my own, and I appreciate you supporting the businesses that help support this blog.

Planetbox Giveaway!


giveaway Following up on last week’s special 15% discount offer, I’m really excited to also be giving a Planetbox away! So, for those of you who didn’t have a chance to scoop one up, or it just didn’t fit into the budget, now’s your chance to still get your hands on one! I’m giving away the Rover system, complete with the lunch bag and a set of magnets. That’s a $62 value on a system that will help make your life much easier (and healthier), when packing lunch for yourself or your kiddo.

If you need inspiration with how to get the most use out of your Planetbox, just in case you’re the lucky winner, make sure to visit my post last week, detailing out 31 Healthy School Lunches (packed in the Planetbox). Giveaway runs through the end of the week, and is open to US residents only. To enter, follow the prompts below. Good luck, and happy lunching! giveaway2

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Tullemoss Launch Weekend!




Tullemoss6 If you recall from a couple of posts back, I have been helping one of my favorite local boutiques, Tullemoss, promote the launch of their new website and e-commerce site. The store owner and my business contact there have been working tirelessly to photograph, inventory and stock up the new site for shopping, and I can’t wait to see the launch come to life this weekend!
Tullemoss4 A couple of weeks back I had the pleasure of attending a trunk show at their store, featuring Siwy Denim, and gorgeous new jackets designed by the store owner herself. While there, she asked me to try on a couple of pieces and take photos in them. I fell in love with this form fitting black jacket, and so did just about every client that night. It nearly sold out, but for the website launch this weekend, I hear they have put several sizes aside.



Tullemoss8 If you visit the website right now, make sure to subscribe to their email list and you will be sent a 15% off discount code to be used online, this weekend only! I hope you’ll visit their site so you can see firsthand why I’ve been a customer for so many years. Happy shopping!  Tullemoss3 Tullemoss2


31 Healthy School Lunches in the Planetbox


lunch-cover I’ve been meaning to put this post together for some time now, and quite frankly my original goal was to get it up as a “back to school” post, but better late than never is my motto. We’ve now been living with my in-laws for close to 5 months, and packing these daily lunches for the kids has been a nice source of regularity in an otherwise irregular situation. I thought by now Taylor would be nagging to buy her own lunch, being the cool 5th grader that she is, but she still seems to enjoy the daily variety and sense of home I guess. They’re still eating most of the contents that I pack for them each day, of course some days are better than others, and they have now started playing a more active role in packing the lunches for themselves. All in all, I’m still plenty happy with our Planetbox purchase and foresee using them for several more years.  I don’t have a single regret, and I wholeheartedly recommend them to anyone committed to packing healthier lunches for themselves or their kids.

I’ve partnered with Planetbox to offer my readers a very rare discount of 15%, using code FORTHELOVEOF15. Planetbox never extends sales on their lunch box systems, save for the rare discount code like the one I’m offering here, so now is an excellent time to take advantage of the sale and save a bit of cash. We use the Rover system for the 2 older kids, and have been plenty happy with the amount it holds. I’ve even used it a few times to pack my own perfectly portioned lunches, especially during a cleanse, and I’m thinking I may buy us a 3rd Rover during this discount, to use exclusively for myself. The discount code is for US residents only, and is only valid for 48 hours, thru Tuesday November 3rd at 11:59 PST. If you have questions about how the Planetbox works, how much it holds, etc., you can visit my Most Commonly Asked Q’s About the Planetbox post, and you can visit my end of school post, which answers whether the Planetbox is really worth the investment.

Please let me know if you have any questions I  may have failed to cover in the above posts, and thanks so much for getting so much enjoyment out of my daily lunch posts on Instagram. I love sharing the ideas, and love that so many of you find them useful. As you know, I strive for balance and try to weigh health, food waste and childhood preferences in somewhat equal measure when I pack their lunches on a daily basis. In other words, I do my best to strive for a good variety of healthy foods, in a balanced combo of protein/carbs/healthy fats, but I also try to offer a daily “treat” as well as keep their likes and dislikes in mind, as to not waste food. I detest throwing away half eaten lunches, so with that in mind, I often pack what feels like the same items over and over, just because I’d rather my kids eat a good meal than perfect the most appealing lunch photo for Instagram. So some may say, “hey, these are kinda boring” or “hey, these aren’t totally healthy” and to that I say, “I do my best, deal with it!” At any rate, I know many of you enjoy my posts and I enjoy going back to revisit old ideas. You can seek over 160 daily lunch posts under the Instagram hashtag #howekids eat, and of course follow along on Instagram so you don’t miss a daily lunch post. For now though, here’s a month worth of ideas and options, and at the very end I’ve categorized several lunch ideas into gluten free, vegetarian and nut free options. Enjoy!
IMG_8417 Above – canned chicken, spinach salad, celery, apples & pears, Ocho peanut butter bar//Below – grilled chicken, pretzel sticks, veggies, watermelon, cinnamon twist, dark chocolate covered almonds IMG_7964 IMG_6887 Above – rice cake with almond butter & blueberries, graham crackers, grapes, veggies and dark chocolate covered almonds // Below – graham crackers with almond butter, apples, grapes & berries, rainbow carrots, mixed nuts and a Justin’s dark chocolate peanut butter cup IMG_6783 IMG_3240 Above – turkey sandwich on whole wheat, blood oranges & mangoes, snappea crisps, carrots and a Newman’s organic cookie sandwich // Below – tuna salad, crackers, snappeas, pineapple & tangerine and dried cranberries
IMG_9998 IMG_6669 Above – mac & cheese, shredded chicken, grapes & apples, rainbow carrots & tomatoes, dye free gummies // Below – turkey sandwich on sourdough, carrots & tomatoes, Bare Naked apple chips, Roam pork stick and Justin’s pb cup IMG_6313 IMG_6292 Above – almond butter & honey on whole wheat raisin bread, carrots & tomatoes, cheddar bunnies, Bare Naked apple chips, back to nature chocolate chip cookies and fruit salad // Below – hazelnut spread wrap, fresh broccoli and snappeas, hard boiled egg, pears, apples & berries, chocolate covered almonds IMG_6113 IMG_6051 Above – hazelnut spread sandwich on sourdough, back to nature chocolate stripe cookies, peaches & strawberries, rice crackers, rainbow carrots // Below – turkey sandwich on sourdough, babybel cheese, rainbow carrots & snappeas, apple straws, grapes & plums, trail mix IMG_5944 IMG_4124 Above – homemade chicken nuggets, grapes & oranges, rice crackers, celery & carrots and babybel cheese // Below – turkey sandwich meat, graham crackers, babybel cheese, dark chocolate chips, fruit salad and snap peas
IMG_0161 Vegetarian Lunch Options: vegetarian-options Nut-Free Lunch Options: nut-free-options Gluten Free Lunch Options: Gluten-free-options Don’t forget the code to receive 15% off any Planetbox purchase is FORTHELOVEOF15 and is valid for US residents only, through Tuesday November 3rd at 11:59 PST

Daily Style – Classy Hi-Tops


“Thanks to VSP Direct for sponsoring this post. I am part of the Mom It Forward Blogger Network”
Brown Leather Booties – Nine West; Fashion Frames – Nine West; Ankle Skinny Jeans – Paige Denim; Cardigan – Loft; Striped T-Shirt – Nordstrom (2 other really cute options here & here); Moto Bag – Rebecca Minkoff

I’ve been wearing glasses since I was in third grade. One of the first pairs of specs that I can clearly remember was an oversize frame in hunter green by Nine West. It was seventh grade and I had a crush on an eight grader named Jason. It was the time of The Cure, The Smiths and Morrissey, with oversize cardigans and Doc Martens, and I was smitten with his long “skater” bangs and thrift store cardigans. Flash forward nearly 20 years, and not much has changed. I still need corrective lenses, and the thrift store oversized cardigans are back in style.  944525_0289-15-VCCM_IPStyleCampaign_NineWest_Pinterest_3_2 It’s strange to think that I’ve also been seeing the same optometrist this entire time, and for the last few years he’s been suggesting I get Lasiks to correct my vision that is so bad I am pretty much considered legally blind. I’ve been holding off though because for all these years, contacts and glasses have been my companion and they have served me well. After years of paying out of pocket for eye exams and lenses, our credit union recently started offering all members VSP Direct™plans at an incredibly affordable rate, so we jumped on board

If you’re not familiar with VSP Direct™, it is an individual vision insurance plan that offers all around vision care, including eye exams and stylish frames for those of us without employee plans, or who are self-employed. Our particular plan covers the whole family for less than the weekly grocery bill, and includes exams for all of us, and the choice of either designer frames or contact lenses. Syd recently had to join the glasses club, so his frames were covered, and a years worth of contact lenses were covered for me. Art will soon be due for a new pair of glasses, and Taylor is lucky enough to so far have perfect vision. It’s nice to know though that if we need it, VSP is there.

VSP Direct is currently holding a “Frame Your Fall Look” Sweepstakes through November 7th, where you can pin your favorite fall look for a chance to win a $150 Nine West gift card, a Nine West must-have fall accessories package, and free VSP Direct Insurance for one year.
IMG_6365 We had a brief taste of Fall last week, and so I assembled my go-to Fall look that I will be sporting all season long. The standard outfit for me this fall will be my new ankle length skinny jeans, a comfy striped tee that can stand on its own if the weather turns warm, as it so often does in SoCal, a cardigan so when the weather turns on a dime as it so often does, I’m prepared, and of course some comfortable shoes. High-tops, as pictured here, are a great choice, as are flat comfortable booties that can take you anywhere. For transporting all your possessions around, the cross-body can’t be beat.

Feminine, yet still plenty functional and comfortable, this is my standard go-to look on a day to day basis. Adding on designer frames can help complete your personal look with affordable, on-trend glasses, like Nine West frames.
IMG_6356 In addition to the “Frame Your Fall Look” Sweepstakes, I’m also excited to be giving away an individual VSP Direct 1 year plan for one of my readers. Just leave a comment below telling me about your favorite Fall look, and you’ll be entered to win. I’l choose a winner next week on Sunday 10/25. Open to US residents only, giveaway closes at 11:59 pm PST. Good luck, and happy Fall!

Shopbop Annual Friends and Family Sale


At midnight the Shopbop 25% off Friends & Family event began, and I logged in at 12:01 to buy myself a pair of wide leg denim jeans I’ve been drooling over for weeks. High waisted and super elongating, these jeans are a welcome new silhouette to add to my closet after year after year of skinnies and boyfriend styles. This morning I woke up to browse more of the sale, and came across quite a few things I’d like to add to my wishlist. Here are a few of my favorites, curated for your window shopping pleasure. Use code INTHEFAM25. fandfsale Plaid Flannel Shirt by Rails – $138 on sale for $103.50 (other Rails super soft flannels found here)

Wide Leg High Waisted Jeans by Siwy – $218 on sale for $163.50 (more budget friendly pair of wide leg denim by Free People on sale for $58)

Rebecca Minkoff Ball Threader Earrings – $58 on sale for $43.50

Nixon Bullet Leather Watch – $200 on sale for $150

Wildfox Sunglasses – $169 on sale for $126.75

Rebecca Minkoff Small Monroe Tote Bag in Forest Green – $245 on sale for $183.75

Rebecca Minkoff Charm Ring Set – $48 on sale for $36

Kate Spade Tracee Bow Booties – $350 on sale for $262.50

Tabbetha Cardigan by BB Dakota – $145 on sale for $108.75

Paige Denim Ankle Skinny Jean – $185 on sale for $138.75

A few other drool worthy pieces include this dress from Free People and these fringe booties by See Chloe. Now is also a good time to start thinking of your Christmas list. A Kate Spade planner or their classic oversized neon square stud earrings are a great gift for your girlfriend or sister.

Daily Style – Silk and Fringe


IMG_6280 Silk Dress & Fringe Boots – c/0 Tullemoss Boutique; Bag – Rebecca Minkoff; Bodysuit – Free People; Ankle Jeans – Paige Denim; Bracelets – Tullemoss & Joyful Jewelry Box

Last weekend I spent 3 nights in Ojai with Beautycounter. I earned the trip by hitting a sales goal for the months of June and July, which surprised me more than anyone. Although I signed on to be a consultant back in February, I didn’t really start selling the products through socials and one-on-one appointments until June, so to achieve this trip in my first 2 months starting out, was pretty spectacular. They wined and dined us, as well as provided a couple of comprehensive training sessions, and I left there feeling inspired and even more convinced I made the right decision to sign on. I’ve been really blessed by this opportunity, as it’s enabled me to help get better products into the hands of a lot more of my friends, family and acquaintances, as well as been able to provide a more steady stream of income than blogging alone could provide. A win-win all around.  IMG_6285 If you follow me on Instagram, you may recognize this outfit from Tullemoss. I’ve been shopping at this local boutique for years now (see here and here and here), since back in the day when I would take Taylor and Syd to the Gymboree just a couple of doors down. I’d stop in after class, when the days at home with a couple of toddlers were long, and the few minutes of adult conversation with the shop owner, along with a purchase here and there, were just enough to help make it through dinner time.

The store has expanded and grown, adding in different labels and styles, but I still love going in there just as much, all these years later. I was jazzed to learn that they’d soon be opening up an e-commerce site, a huge undertaking and step that will help expand a local Long Beach boutique to reach a much wider audience across the country.

The online shop launches the weekend of November 7th, and Tullemoss is offering readers a 15% off code for the website’s launch weekend. Just visit their site and enter your email address for your code.
IMG_6298 IMG_6307 Because I’m tall, the dress on me is a bit on the short side, just because of the side slits, so to remedy this situation I simply wore my favorite Free People bodysuit underneath it. It’s the same one I wore under this look, and works perfectly for shorter type dresses, just to help provide an extra layer of coverage. For those who are a little less daring, the dress works super cute as a long tunic over jeans too. That’s how I wore it recently to Hayden’s preschool back to school night.
IMG_6325 IMG_6328 It feels good to break my blogging silence and get back here for a new post. Now that Hayden has started preschool, I definitely have a few more hours in the week, but between extra commitments at the big kid’s school and the house remodel, it seems like those hours pretty much evaporate into thin air. He truly loves going to school though and literally yells “YAY!!!!” when he learns it’s a school day. It has us thinking we may enroll him one extra day after the winter break. We’ll see how it goes, but for now we’re both pretty excited to see him so happy, and to finally have a child who we don’t have to tear away from our legs to go into the school yard.

Hoping you all are good and well, and have a wonderful rest of the week! Don’t forget to visit Tullemoss to get your discount code!

Top 5 Favorite Beautycounter Items & Labor Day Promo


IMG_4508 I joined Beautycounter as a consultant because I loved the premise of the company; beautiful products that performed, and were made safe. I started actively selling Beautycounter though, through “socials” and one-on-one appointments, because I was blown away by how well the products actually worked. But while I’ve been impressed with just about the whole line of products, I still have a few favorites that I wholeheartedly believe in and personally feel are the best I’ve ever used. This Labor Day weekend Beautycounter is giving away a full size jar of our Nourishing Cleansing Balm with every $150 purchase, so if you’ve been thinking of making a purchase and trying out this line for yourself, now’s the time. If you need help with where to start, here are my recommendations.

Note that I have color treated hair and overall dry skin, so these products work especially well for me. If you have concerns or questions though about my recommendations working for you, let me know and I’ll do my best to answer.

Clean Everyday Shampoo: I’ve sang this product’s praises before, and I’ll continue to do so until all my friends try this stuff out. The best I’ve ever used, it manages to clean my oily hair without drying it out or leaving it feeling stripped and lifeless, making it hard to style. Made with pure plant botanicals and zero sulfates, which can irritate the skin and contain known carcinogen 1, 4 dioxane, this shampoo instead uses ingredients derived from coconut oil and amino acids. beautycounter-clean-shampoo-1534x1168

Tint Skin: I’ve written about this foundation being wonderfully lightweight and yet still able to provide exceptional coverage, but I failed to mention the active skincare ingredients it contains, including hyaluronic acid, a natural moisture magnet which promotes smoother-looking skin and reduces the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. It can go on with your fingers, but goes on even smoother with the retractable complexion coverage brush. beautycounter_tint-skin-complexion-coverage_porcelain_1534x1168_view1

Soothing Face Wash: I’m always impressed with any face wash which can remove my Tarte mascara, which is usually a bitch to take off, and this stuff does just that, safely. Gentle yet highly effective at countering the signs of aging, with plant based ingredients including apricot kernel oil and camellia leaf extract, which work to provide the skin with moisture and a heady does of antioxidants. I have fairly sensitive skin, but this face wash truly works wonders for my skin. beautycounter_countertime-soothing-face-wash_main_1534x1168

Every Day Hydrating Cream: Super lightweight and non-greasy, this lotion is the perfect primer for my makeup, and leaves my face feeling great when I’m having a makeup free day. I recommend this to most women who are not seeking an active anti-aging regimen, because it’s gentle yet effective, and works for any skin type, be it super dry to oily and troubled. And like all of our products, paraben free, which is a preservative that mimics estrogen and is linked to endocrine disruption. I mix my cream with a drop or two of Lustro Face Oil #1 if I’m feeling particularly dry that day. beautycounter-every_day-hydrating_cream-1534x1168

Nourishing Cleansing Balm: If I feel like my skin needs some deep cleaning, I use this before my Soothing Face Wash, but mainly I just use it as a night time mask, once every couple of weeks. It also works wonders on dry elbows, knees and cracked heels. Part of our anti-aging line, it can be extremely powerful if used everyday, so because of my sensitive skin, I use it sparingly when I feel I need a good dose of hydration. Either way you use it though, be it every night or once a month, a little goes a long way and you will get months and months of use out of it. Raspberry Seed Oil and Cranberry Seed Oil hydrate and revitalize the skin, while Vitamin C brightens skin tone. This is the item you get for free by the way, when you make a purchase of $150 or more this weekend.  beautycounter_countertime-nourishing-cleansing-balm_main_1534x1168

Bottom line guys, I’m so happy and proud to be repping this line. I love the product, and even more so, I love the company and their mission. A few of the reasons why I chose to sell Beautycounter over another line? Here are a few bullet points that I like to rattle off if someone asks.

  • Beautycounter only uses ingredients with a proven safety record. Most commonly used ingredients in personal care products have never been tested for safety and therefore have no safety data. They have one of the strictest ingredient screening processes in the industry though, and will only use an ingredient they know to be safe. This eliminates the all too common scenario of swapping one bad ingredient for another.
  • Beautycounter respects nature and science. I always emphasize that Beautycounter is not an all natural company because we do use some synthetic ingredients, but as I mentioned above, only those with a proven safety record. It’s this beautiful combination of nature and science that helps the products work so dang well.
  • With science, safety and performance in mind, Beautycounter has assembled a kick-ass team. Gregg Renfrew, our founder, is a wonderful businesswoman who believes in the entrepreneurial power of women, which is part of the reason she chose a direct retail business model (the other reason was to help get the proper education put forth through consultants like myself). Christy Coleman, as a renowned makeup artist, ensures that our products actually perform. Mia Davis, head of Health & Safety and one of the responsible parties for getting BPA removed from everyday plastic items, helps to uphold our strict ingredient screening process. And lastly, our new Science Director, Nicole Acevedo, will help us better understand the physiological component of endocrine disrupting chemicals, and she will work with the health and safety team to screen all potential ingredients for safety and to move forward ground-breaking research.

Let me know if you guys have any questions at all about the products mentioned above. Tomorrow, I hope to share a few other great Labor Day promos going on with some of my favorite companies. Hopefully I’ll get around to it :) I don’t always like to feel like I’m encouraging shopping, even though this started out as a style blog. But the truth is, if I’m going to spend money I like to do so intentionally and especially during a promo time, and I figure most of you feel the same way too.

Potty Training the 3rd Time Around


Potty-training We set out to get Hayden potty trained a couple of weeks ago, just several days shy of his 3rd birthday. In all honesty, had we not been required to have him fully trained for the start of preschool, I’m not sure I would’ve finally taken the plunge. He’s my 3rd and final baby, and I fully admit that by keeping him in diapers I was able to stay in the sheltered world of De-Nial, and keep him as my forever baby. But we all know that’s not the most functional form of parenting, so we took on the challenge gosh, 2 weeks ago now, and I’m happy to announce that we’ve conquered the loo and we now have our last kid out of diapers.

The basic run-down of the last couple of weeks goes like this. We began on a Wednesday by ditching the diapers completely and putting him in undies. For the first 3 days, we had him sit on the potty every hour during awake times. For naps we kept him in undies, but at night we put him in a diaper. For the first 3 days we had nothing but accidents and he didn’t use the potty a single time. By day 4 though, we had a very good idea of his “schedule” and could anticipate the times he was going to have to go, so on day 4 we backed off from having him sit down every hour. This is when the magic happened, and by the end of day 4 he went pee on the potty for the first time. He continued to have at least 1 accident a day for the next 3-4 days, and by day 8 he was telling us when he had to go potty, which is when you know you’re really making progress. It was also at this time that he asked to wear undies to go to bed, so we swapped the diaper for the undies and he’s continued to wake up dry (last night he even woke up Taylor and told her he had to go potty, and went!). He’s now routinely telling us when he has to go, and as of yesterday, is comfortably going when out in public. We have yet to nail down the pooping situation, but since we are only 2 weeks in, and about a week since a urination accident, we’re not too concerned with pushing him. We have confidence that he’ll get it pretty soon.

A few thoughts on our pretty straightforward process, just because I’ve had some friends and readers ask.

  1. No Pull-Ups: We’ve subscribed to the no pull-ups at all routine with all 3 of our kids, and it has not failed us. I read somewhere many years ago when we were first starting to train Taylor, that putting them in pull-ups will only delay the process, because it prevents the child from feeling the whole bodily process of having to go, and then releasing. I double checked, and it seems that many “experts” still agree on this no pull-up method. For day time we kept him in undies all day, and at night, we put him in a diaper, which he eventually asked us to replace with his undies after about 6-7 days. *We are lucky in that we breed camels for children, and can count on one hand the amount of night time bed wettings we’ve had with all 3 kids. In fact, I don’t think any of them have ever wet their bed at night, so if you have a child who’s still waking up with wet diapers, consult  the “experts” because I don’t know what to do 😉
  2. In regards to signs of readiness: Hayden was displaying all the typical signs of readiness including waking up with dry diapers, asking us to change his dirty diaper after going potty, telling us he’s going potty, hiding in the corner to go poop, and showing an overall interest in the potty.
  3. In regards to “waiting until they’re ready”: Aside from the elimination communication form of potty training, most “experts” agree that a child is ready to be potty trained around the age of 2, and at maximum should be trained by 3. For all intents and purposes I’d agree, based off of my own experience with my 3.  Taylor literally trained herself in a couple of days when she was 22 months old, while Syd did take a bit longer and after he finally relinquished the idea of “control”, was trained in a weekend just after his 3rd birthday. Hayden quite honestly, with his easy going temperament, could have been trained even younger, but like I said, we sorta waited out of sheer laziness and denial that our little dude was growing up. With all that being said, I don’t agree that potty training should be one of those areas that we just let the children take control and lead the way. Kids need our guidance and structure with most everything they learn, and potty training should be no different. If you can make the process carefree and stress-free, it’s my personal belief that potty training should be led by the parents, when they are ready, not necessarily when the child is “ready.” I had a couple of people suggest to me that I should hold off and wait a few more months(!) just because I mentioned that Hayden was still having accidents on day 3. Had we not continued to stick with it and I instead let Hayden “lead the way” we wouldn’t have a very proud and happy little boy, going potty on the toilet just like his big brother. I think this topic is just a matter of parenting style, so please follow your gut and if you truly believe all parties involved are ready, then ignore the unsolicited advice from other parents telling you to back off.
  4. Getting them used to the potty: Nope, we didn’t do this either. We have 2 kinds of potty seats; one of the cushioned rings which fits over the big seat and keep downstairs, and one of the little toddler potties that they can sit on and you dump the pee, which we kept upstairs. When we decided to start, we brought both out and simply said, “This is where you go potty!” We didn’t leave it beforehand so he could “test it out”, so don’t feel like that bit of advice should be followed. I think, just like the pull-ups advice, is unnecessary and can even be confusing for the kids.
  5. Going naked: This method of letting them run around so they get the full sensation of the urge to go, and then release, is quite effective. But because we were living with my in-laws where she has lots of nice rugs all over the house and expensive hard wood flooring, I took the route of having him wear one of those Gerber padded undies underneath a pair of regular undies. Who knows, having him wear undies the whole time may have taken a few days longer, but in the end we were successful with this method, so don’t feel like the free and naked route is the only way to go.
  6. Being home-bound: This is another method which “experts” say make potty training easier and quicker, and that may very well be the case, but we did not stay home-bound the entire time. We got out plenty, and yes, we did have a few accidents, but nothing that wasn’t manageable. We always made sure to have a change of clothes with us, and we took the toddler potty with us so we could have him try to go before and after we went somewhere, but we didn’t have much luck in the beginning with this. But now, we can go out and he will tell us that he has to go, and actually go!
  7. Using a reward system: By the looks of my social media feeds, it seems the M&M reward system is pretty popular in getting kids potty trained. I can’t say whether it works or not since we’ve never tried it, but I can confirm that a more nonchalant system of congratulating for a job well done works great, and doesn’t get you stuck in a never-ending, demanding cycle of pee/candy/pee/candy. Every so often, after Hayden started actually going pee on the potty, we would go crazy with congratulations and high fives, and then say “Hey buddy, here’s a little treat!” We never really used it as a reward per se, or a bribe to get him to go, and now he’s going just find without prompting or cajoling, and he’s not expecting anything in return.
  8. Withholding poop: From my own personal experience and from speaking with countless friends and family members, not all kids train to go both pee and poop simultaneously. Because poop tends to be a little easier to control than pee, some kids may withhold going, either for control or because they’re just not getting how to make a bowel movement happen when sitting down on the potty. This happened with Taylor, was no problem with Syd, and is now happening with Hayden. He’s yet to make a bm on the potty, but as I said above, it’s really only been 2 weeks total, and because he mastered pee pretty easily and quickly, we’re not too concerned that poo will come next, and soon.

So that’s over 1500 words on the subject of potty training. I didn’t think I had that much to say, but I guess after 3 unique experiences with 3 kids, there’s a lot to be learned and discussed! Bottom line, my advice is to not make it into a huge production. I know it can seem overwhelming, especially with your first child, but take it seriously and be consistent, and after a few days you’ll see that it’s no big deal. My last big piece of advice that I didn’t really mention above, is to not get upset about accidents or scold and shame them. I’m not saying you have to be a happy patient saint every time there’s an accident (believe me, I let my frustration slip a bit here and there), but just stay consistent with the practice and offer plenty of reassurance that accidents are okay, but remind them where their pee and poo go; in the potty! And remind yourself that accidents are great learning experiences for you too, because you get a better idea of their schedule and can anticipate when they’ll have to go. This will avoid countless, unnecessary hours spent on the potty.

I hope this helps and isn’t too vague! Please let me know if you have any questions about any of this, I’d be happy to share any info I may have missed! I just love talking about poo and pee! 😉