Don’t Hate Me Because I’m A Republican


I realize I’m walking on dangerous ground by publishing a political post on here, especially today of all days.  But I thought I’d write about something a bit different, and perhaps help you get to know me a little bit better.  Why mix blogging with politics?  Well, for no other reason than the simple fact that politics are important to me.  If politics aren’t important to you, then by all means move on and skip this post.  This morning I posted to my Instagram feed and Twitter a picture of my Romney yard sign with the caption, “It’s Go Time.”  In a matter of minutes I watched the unfollows commence, both on IG and on Twitter.  One follower commented (and later apologized), that she was disappointed in me and my views.  It’s not the first time that I’ve heard something similar this election year, after posting a political statement via Twitter.  I’ve had several people tell me I must hate women since I’m voting for Romney.  Seriously.

So here’s the thing, I thought I’d take a moment today, on election day, when we get to exercise our political views in absolute freedom and without fear of persecution, to let you know what kind of Republican I am.  Not to try and persuade anyone to my side, not to try and argue for one party over the other, but just to remind us all that we cannot put each other in boxes based solely on political parties.

My parents are staunch Republicans.  They are also ridiculously pro-Union, a combo you don’t typically see.  Aside from a brief moment where I went vegetarian and vandalized the local Albertson’s meat department with PETA “Meat Is Murder” stickers, I have always held right-leaning political views since I knew enough to have a view.  My dad is a retired truck driver, my mom a retired grocery checker.  Neither of them graduated college and instead got good paying Union jobs to help support the family.  My brother and I are the first of our family to go to college, and we paid our way with a combination of help from our parents and taking out student loans.  We very much grew up with the belief that hard work pays off, and that government should stay the heck out of our lives as much as possible. We are far from being rich or entitled, yet we are still Republicans.  I tell you all this because I firmly believe that where you come from and how you grew up largely impacts and shapes your belief system.

As an individual however, I also believe in marriage equality and I am pro-choice.  On the other hand though, I don’t believe that companies should be forced to pay for women’s contraception.  If that’s the sticking point that makes me hate women, well then I guess I hate women, but that’s severely short-sighted if you ask me.  I realize that being pro-choice and believing in marriage equality may also make me a bad Republican and a bad Christian, but for various reasons that I don’t need to get into, it’s what I believe.

So when people tell me that as a Republican, I must not believe in women’s rights, or gay rights, or worst of all, that I’m racist(!), it irritates me.  I can identify with a political party, but not believe in 100% of their views.  I can endorse a candidate, yet still see that he has flaws.  You see, I believe that there is more to Romney than his binders of women, just like there’s more to Obama than Benghazi.  I believe the Republican party has a lot of work to do to redefine itself, but for now it’s the political party I most identify with.

So please, before you decide to not like someone based on their political party, reconsider.  There’s always a bigger picture.  Tomorrow I’ll be back to outfit posts and giveaways and fun stuff, but today I just had to get this off my chest.  Thanks for reading, whether you’re a liberal or a right-winger.  I love you all the same (as long as you’re respectful).  Happy Election Day!

Andrea is the founder of For The Love Of, a lifestyle blog dedicated to approachable, modern living. She writes about style, her love of DIY, and living a healthier life through wholesome, nutritious cooking. She is also a regular contributor at Babble. Get in touch: Facebook, Twitter You can find Andrea on Instagram @andreavhowe and @gwynethmademedoit

  • Breanna says:

    Loved this post 🙂 We all have a right to express our opinion and it is very annoying when others feel the need to bash our choices especially when it comes to politics! So go you for writing this post!

  • ppp says:

    even though i disagree with you politically, i applaud you for expressing your views eloquently and without shame.

  • Robin T says:

    I appreciate people who are able to articulate their own beliefs, without expecting others to toe their line or be degrading to people who have put a lot of time and effort and thought into it and come up with a different view. I am a Christian, registered as a R, and today voted for Obama because I feel like as a broad generalization the R party cares more about preventing abortion than taking care of children/women/men who are here and in need of help. And a bunch of other stuff 🙂 no un-following here 😉

  • Susan G says:

    Great post! And this is coming from a very liberal life-long Democrat! I’m sorry you got some negative feedback about this.

  • Deirdre says:

    Andrea, thank you for sharing such a well-written post. You serve as a wonderful reminder to all those who forget that beliefs and opinions don’t need to be black or white, because those that are gray are just as lovely and important!

  • Haley W says:

    Probably my most favorite political blog post that I’ve seen so far! You’ve got the right idea — supporting a candidate doesn’t mean you think they’re perfect and can do wrong. It just means that you think they can do the most right.

    Thanks for this!! Happy voting!

  • Jane says:

    I like that you acknowledge that it’s “the political party you most identify with.” Views change and are shaped by our experiences. Today, I voted Democrat because I believe the party’s better for the country than the Republicans — for right now. But I don’t know whether a different Republican candidate wouldn’t have gotten my vote.

  • Emily says:

    The only thing that bothers me on election day is when people don’t have a point of view. This is America, where we have the freedom of speech. I applaud your for exercising this right!!

  • Amy says:

    I LOVE this post. Thank you for sharing.

  • Cathie says:

    Hi Andrea, I must confess that when I saw some of your tweets after the presidential debates I almost unfollowed you. And then I stopped and thought how small minded that would make _me_. You’re entitled to your opinion and your vote. We don’t have to agree on everything, right?

    So, although I’m not a Republican or even American, I’ll stick around until you say something truly offensive.

    kudos for your honesty!

  • Courtney says:

    Love this post. I can’t believe how many people have written something that shows their political party & then lost followers. I love your blog & I have read for a while & never thought – hey I wonder if she’s democrat or republican? One thing that makes this nation great is our right to vote & right to choose who we want to vote for. We shouldn’t lose friends & “followers” because of it!

  • Liz says:

    I was raised in a Republican household with views similar to yours. I switched to the Democratic party as a young adult because I had such a hard time with Republican social views, but I definitely appreciate having a party affiliation while not 100% endorsing every view they take.

    I don’t like how polarized politics has gotten, and there needs to be more honest & polite political discussion. Thanks for your honesty & candor!

  • Janssen says:

    What a great post.

    I think it’s so easy to look at the candidate/party you don’t like and hold on to one thing (like the binder full of women or Benghazi) and use it to justify all your hatred of that person/party, and then ignore the things your own person or party does that you don’t necessarily agree with.

    You’re brave to share!

  • Emily says:

    Good for you!!! Everyone is allowed to have their own opinions. And people unfollowing you because of your political opinion is so silly to me. I’ve been following you for a few months now, and it’s because you are a great blogger!! Not because of your political views 🙂

  • MoniQue says:

    You are awesome! Thanks for sharing. I’m A very quiet political person and I admire you for your candidness.

  • Alex says:

    We don’t have to have the same beliefs in policy or party platforms, but we can always agree that voting is both a duty and privilege we can’t take for granted.

  • hey girl — way to be open about your beliefs. and each party has it’s issues– let’s be honest. i honestly don’t believe that either party changes things all that much– or even has all the answers. i’m just thankful to live in a country where we can vote and can vote differently 🙂 (p.s. this is from someone who didn’t vote for romney– so there you go. look at friendly “across the aisle” stuff.)

  • misha says:

    ha! did we vandalize together? great post!

  • Amy Studer says:

    Love it!! Thanks for sharing!

  • Li says:

    Very well stated. I am grateful for the privileges afforded to us in this country. Wouldn’t we all be better off if a greater portion of our society was as open-minded and respectful as you just were? Thank you for sharing this with such courage, sincerity, and candor.

  • Greta says:

    Way to be brave and HONEST, Andrea!
    It’s hard to admit you’re a Republican in these parts.
    Today I told a group of very Democratic women that I was voting for Romney.
    Not because I love him, but because he is the lesser of 2 evils in my mind.
    You should have felt the tension and even some animosity in the air.
    I don’t dislike them because we are voting differently.
    But man, the air felt icy after my “confession”.
    And guess what, I disagree with some of your political views, but I’ll still like you and read your blog.
    We are so fortunate to live in a place where that is OK.
    Love from,

  • I couldn’t agree with you more. Literally agree with you on every point. It bothers me when people say that I am a racist {even though I’m half black!} or greedy because I’m a republican. And I’m equally disappointed when my Christian friends think I’m not as spiritual as them because I believe in marriage equality. I’m not thrilled with the election results, but I believe that God has a plan that is bigger and better than what I would have wanted. All I can do is trust God & respect the authority that He has set in place.

  • Andrea O says:

    Andrea, I really appreciate this post and the guts that it must have taken to write it. I am opposite you in political party but I think one of the major issues in this country is the extreme divisiveness of late. We NEED more discussions and to hear what REASONABLE members of the other party think. Thank you! But one thing: please please please don’t let anyone tell you that you are a “bad” Christian because you support marriage equality. I understand everyone has their views on this, but as a Christian (and democrat, yes we do exist) I truly believe that means that we try to love each other unconditionally. period. WWJD indeed.

  • Very well said! Even though I’m coming from a different place politically, I appreciate hearing your perspective. And I’m sorry that people felt the need to unfollow because you have different views. That’s lame.

  • Jenn L. says:

    You are great! People need to stop being hateful. Some of my dearest friends have very different political beliefs than me — and don’t even get me started on my family. But the real joy of being an American is that we are all entitled to our beliefs and we can learn from each other. I think people from both sides could use a little lesson in tolerance and compromise — then maybe we could get some nonsense done around these parts!!!

  • I read this yesterday and wasn’t able to comment but after I read your Insta post about “shutting your mouth”, I had to put in my two cents.
    I’m not sure if you were serious or not about no longer speaking about your politics/convictions but I sincerely hope not. You’re smart enough to know that if anyone unfollows you SIMPLY because you share different beliefs {and for that reason only}, than they are not worth changing your platform or voice for.
    Just look at how much response you get when you DO share your thoughts/heart/opinions!

    I echo what Greta said. It’s good and right to be able to listen, share and hear other people and their opinions.

    Don’t stop sharing because of a few.

  • Amanda says:

    I think you’re brave for posting this! Thank you! I agree with you politically on every point you made. I have plenty of friends that are liberal democrats and read plenty of blogs written by liberals as well. But I don’t read them for their politics and don’t like anyone any less because of them either. I can agree to disagree, and can like people even though we don’t agree politically. And as for the people who have decided to unfollow you, it’s their loss! And how silly that they can’t appreciate that we all believe different things, yet can come together through our similarities. Bravo to you!

  • Anon says:

    Our of those two candidates Romney was certainly not gaining my vote. Republican or not it was like watching a train wreck. My views are far from republican although I agree with being fiscally conservative, my social views of keeping government out of certain regulations far out weigh what I want for my children.

  • D says:

    You seem to be the same kind of Republican I am. I also believe in pro-choice and and pro-union. I generally keep my opinions to myself. In general, I want the government to stay out of my business as much as possible. I don’t feel they really know what is best for all and politicos are too influenced by their own agendas.

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